*I am Mabel, 14 years old and am in JHS One. A boy in my area has asked me to be his girlfriend, what does he mean and what should I do Counselor?*
Let's begin by looking at the meaning of the term "girlfriend". The dictionary has two definitions for the word "girlfriend";
1.A female friend.
2. A female partner in a romantic relationship.
In Ghana, mostly, when a boy tells a girl to be his girlfriend, he's actually referring to the second definition, that is, he wants the girl to be his lover in a romantic affair. If the boy is already your friend, why would he still demand that you become his girlfriend? It obviously means he wants to have a romantic affair with you.
Frankly, it is very natural to have some strong feelings towards the opposite as a teenager. During the teenage years, all the feminine features have developed and look attractive. However, it is at this stage that you should be extremely careful. A little carelessness can lead to many dire consequences that you will regret your entire life.
At JHS One, you are too young for any romantic relationship. Many boys may come your way and try to lure you into all forms of relationships but I can assure you that none of them even understands what true love is. They come only because of the beautiful physical features you have; your breast, buttocks, hips, eyes, etc.
As a student, focus on your studies. In very few years, you will be writing your BECE. This is the exams that will determine if you'll go to Senior High School and further to the tertiary institution. This shows how important BECE is. And passing this exams requires adequate preparation and spending ample time with your books.
Say No to any boy who comes your way with romantic affairs. Also, stay away from friends who engage in sexual relationships with the opposite sex. They won't help you.
At 14, you are old enough to become pregnant. Any affair you have can lead to unwanted pregnancy. This will make you stop schooling, stay home and become a mother while your friends are in school. It can also lead to HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases like gonorrhoea, syphillis, etc.
Stay clear from boys and focus on your books.
Thank you.
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_*Mr. Daniel Fenyi* (Counselor FENYI) is a relationship specialist, educationist and career choice consultant. For all your personal, relationship, academic and career problems, Call or Whatsapp Counselor on *+233242937017.*_
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