Should I Tell my Girlfriend/Boyfriend About my Past Life?

Counselor FENYI writes✍....

As a professional youth counselor, I will let you in on all the bare facts and leave the final decision for you to take, as I always do. In the event of any misunderstanding, feel free to call or whatsapp Counselor for further clarifications.

There are two types of past. One, a past life that has automatic impact on the future and two, a past life that does not have any impact. Every human being has gone through both types of past before, though they may have come in different forms, be it relationship, finance, academic, profession, etc.

If your partner asks you about your past life, you can choose to tell him either or both of the two past lives above. However, you should be more interested in telling him the ones that have impact on the future. Why? Because your partner is now a part of your future and so he should be aware of all possible incidents that can happen to him/her due to some influences from your past life.

The biggest challenge is, some people complain that when they tell their lovers about their past, they lose interest in the relationship and some even break up with them. Due to this, they are tempted to hide their past or lie about it. But the truth is, a guy who breaks up with you sake of your past, will do same even if it takes him twenty (20) years to know it. Infact, some lovers will break up with you not because of the actual past life, but the fact that you lied or hid it from him/her for so long.

Example, you did an abortion, had complications and so you can't give birth again, you had an affair with your boss at the work place and he blackmails you with it, you had an affair with your guy's best friend/brother/father, you stole huge money before you quitted your job, you have a child somewhere, etc, all these are experiences that will come hunting you someday in your future. If your guy asks you about your past, open up and tell him. Because even if he hears it many years later, he'll still be hurt and may break up with you.

However, don't open up your past to just anybody. When people hear your past, they tend to spread it to other people, especially when there is a break up. Be very cautious about it. Make sure you know your guy very well and you are about 90% sure that the relationship can lead to marriage.

Don't lie to your guy about your past. It's better you remain silent over it than lie. Also, there is a way you can present your past so that it will look milder and less serious. This isn't lying, it's about good presentation skills.

At what point in the relationship should you tell your guy/lady about your past? How should you present your past life in such a way that the guy/lady wouldn't be offended?

To find answers to the above questions, call/whatsapp Counselor FENYI on +233242937017

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December, 2017.