The Master Brewer – Lade Wosornu

*MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK, DON'T BREAK UP YET*
Author: Counselor FENYI

Well, what makes you think your next relationship will be better than the one you have now? Anytime you break up, you have a 50/50 chance of getting a better relationship but the question is, why would you put your relationship life on a 50/50 scale? Am not saying stay in any relationship no matter how bad it is, the point is, make break up the very last option to take after trying all alternatives to make your relationship work.

As a counselor, with all the issues I've handled, I dare-say that 80% of ladies/guys who leave their partners, later regret and wish to return. Never threaten your partner with break up because when you leave, his/her life will still go on, don't overemphasise your importance, you both need each other. After reading this piece, feel free and pick Counselor Fenyi's number and call/whatsapp him on +233242937O17 for further counselling and mentoring.

To make your relationship work, don't be too critical in your relationship. Don't nag/complain about every little wrong. Be flexible amd dynamic. Once a while, your partner will lie, forgive him/her. Once a while, he/she will go angry, forgive him. Once a while, he'll flirt around with another lady/guy (not necessarily cheat), forgive him/her. Once a while, he/she will get drunk, forgive him. Once a while, he/she will disagree with you, forgive. Once a while, he'll forget your birthday, forgive him. Once a while, he'll be too busy to have time for you, forgive him. These are human weaknesses. If you are not careful, you may quit but later find that things were not as you thought.

When your relationship starts going bad, the first thing to do is to go back to God in prayer. The devil fights anything good. It might be the devil fighting your beautiful relationship, he has seen you have a bright future with your lover so he'll do anything possible to fight it. My dear, fight back in prayer.

Next is to talk to your partner. This comes in two forms: talking to your partner yourself or making other persons talk to him/her. Talk to your partner about the problem, face-to-face (not on phone). If you've done that and things are not changing, carefully pick a third party and talk to him/her. The third party should be a neutral person (not your parents, friends, or his parents or friends), probably, Counselor Fenyi is a better option.

When everything seems not to be working, ask your partner straight in the face, "should we continue with the relationship or we should break up?". Yh, ask this categorical question. Sometimes insecurity sets in and our relationship turns sour. This question will make you clear in your mind about the relationship. If he/she says you should continue, then wisely settle your differences and live together. If he/she says you should quit, gather yourself and move on. It'll be heartbreaking but gather courage and move on. Don't beg or force your love on anyone.

Thank you for reading.

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January, 2018.