*Does Age Really Matter In Relationship/Marriage?*
Author: Mr. FENYI
I treated this subject on the Western Region Takoradi-based OGYA 98.3 FM and decided to share the thoughts with my cherished readers and followers.
Yes, age really matters in a relationship. When I was young, people told me age does not matter in a relationship. All they said was love is the only thing that matters. But growing up, and more so becoming a counselor, I daresay that love is even perceptional and most times seen differently by people of different ages and contexts. I have two real life contexts to prove the relevance of age in relationship.
A fifty (50) year old man consulted me on his marital problem. He said he and his wife were not sexually compatible. He bitterly complained that his wife always demanded for sex and sometimes wanted sex about 4-5 times in a single day. He appeared tired and frustrated and was on the verge of divorcing the wife.
I asked of the age of the wife and he said 28 years old. No wonder, I thought. A 28-year young lady and a 50-year old man in marriage. On the surface, it appears the problem is sexual incompatibility. But really speaking, the problem lies in their ages. A 28-year old is generally youthful, energertic, exuberant and sexually active. A 50-year old man has seen it all, he's thinking about life after pension, investment, and sexually inactive. These two generations can never be compatible except for a miracle.
Again, this 19-year old Nov/Dec candidate walked to me oneday and complained bitterly about her relationship. She was dating a 40-year old banker who was moderately fulfilled in life with a house and a car. Poised to enter the tertiary, this young lady needed ample time to study for her Nov/Dec exams but this man almost always needed her to cook, wash, sweep and spend time together.
On the surface, the lady now feels the man is too demanding and the man feels the lady doesn't have time for him. But this is not the actual problem. The problem is, due to their levels and age differences, their focus and expectations in life are also different thereby rendering the relationship an unhappy one.
Does your man treat you as a junior sister? Does he treat you as an immature person? When he's taking a decision, he doesn't consider your thoughts because he says you are childish? Hmmm...These are signs of age desparities which are symptoms of a relationship that would not succeed.
Age is a silent but important element in any relationship. However, there is no recommended standard age limits for partners. I recommend however that before you enter a relationship, get to know your partner's age and consider his attitude towards you.
Lady, never marry a *'father figure'.* Gentleman, never marry a *'mother figure'.* A beautiful and successful relationship is built with a *'friend figure'.*
Thank you for reading.
_The writer, *Mr. Daniel Fenyi* is a relationship, education and career choice specialist. If you need *counselling* on anything, Call or Whatsapp Him on *+233242937O17.*_
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